a common everyday approach after Erickson
problems and solutions
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Easy is good, and if things get too complex, it probably means we're missing something.
For me, Antonella, the hammer, nail, and elbow grease are observe, observe, and observe. That way we discover what to do, how to respond, and soon see the result. It's so much more fun then just hammering nails according to some preordained plan.
Also the truck is a willingness to listen, to maintain expectancy, to restore genuine trust while taking care of ourselves. The truck needs fuel and maintenance.
Wholeness. A reminder we are more than the sum of our worries and struggles as are our clients.
Yes, a whole lot more! Thanks Cynthy.
Thank you for the clear comparison of the two models, it helps me to conceptualise my aim when I’m focusing on solutions; creating solutions with the client’s expertise rather than imposing a fix.
This is such a respectful approach as it acknowledges and encourages the client’s expertise and power within their situation as well as the professional relationship.
I think respect is all important but from what I know some of Erickson's patients didn't think that was always the case. Sometimes you need to go under the hood before you can see the solution or the side window instead of the front door in order to find whats missing and to ensure that they own the solution give them the lesson with the rod and real rather than hand them the fish. Whats the most fun is that Ive been given a rod and real and its so empowering to realise you can do so much more than fish, you just have to believe in what you were put here for. The skills you have wanted always wanted and were frightening as a child child now make more sense and are less frightening and as time progresses if you get over your life you'll get your joy back and not aim to reduce life to soylent green as the sole choice on the menu for a life wasted.
Those childhood fears can be processed like soylent green and connect with those skills with joy as you wrote.
I participated in your face to face training in Helsinki this October and I was facinated by the elegance of the approach and how natural hypnotic experience can be. I also noticed that your answers to the comments of the audience very often, if not always, contained something ’what was missing’ from the original comment. That filled me with peaceful joy and feeling of ’being whole’ then. And now I heared about the idea of wholeness in this video, so my experience at the seminar makes sence even more. Thank you!
I'm so pleased that you can continue what we began in Helsinki, Olga. There's so much to learn, and plenty of time to explore. Welcome!
Thank you! It’s so nice to be here!
Hi Rob, I love the simplicity of this approach in explaining the difference between a problem focused and a solution focused approach. Thank you.
never get sick of this?
This is such an easy and useful comparison for me to grasp the essential differences. Thanks Rob. Sometimes, so easy to get bogged down in all the various techniques and tools, it feels like I'm a 'tradie' with a truck load of useful gadgets that I lug to every job even though most of the time - a hammer and nails and a bit of elbow grease
is all that I'll end up needing.